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Has anyone been through the same situation?

She was one of the most beautiful, courageous and ambitious girl I knew . Yet she would mostly end up with guys who had no respect for her or treat her disrespectfully or simply ignore her boundaries !

It was sort of puzzle for me to understand on how she would end up with guys like the one she was totally incompatible with !!! Everything became crystal clear when I observed her behavior and on what basis she chose those men in past !

She would always play hard to get until the guy is very persistent in his efforts before considering the guy romantically.

She would say ‘NO’ to the guy in first few attempts even if she liked him and guy would need to keep coming back. She was of the opinion that she was testing on how serious the guy was about her.

She kind of enjoyed mind games and being chased ! She would drop hints here and there . Finally , she would give in after some serious effort from the guy . Thinking they will be happily ever after !! Of course , Most of the time it ended badly to say the least .

Do you see the problem yet?

She filtered out all the men who takes ‘NO’ as ‘NO’.

Men who respects boundaries .

Men who value their time and energy.

In short , she unknowingly filtered out all those men who could have been what she wanted . It was as if she wanted apple but always shopped for orange ! She was following the sure shot way of attracting abusers, psychopaths and narcissists in life . Because they are the ones who never takes ‘No’ for an answer.

If you want genuine relationships in life then be upfront with your feelings . Always mean what you say !

Being genuine is not a guarantee that you end up with what you want but it certainly is sure shot way of avoiding the people who do not respect your boundaries !!

Thanks for reading . Hope it helps !!

Credit: RP Singh